Perfect Neighborhood ...!!!

Just finished watching a Desperate Housewives episode .. the last line of the episode said
" ...in our darkest moment we all need someone to listen to us ...some seek to talk friendly professionals...some talk to someone wiser and elderly... some to someone who has gone to through similar.... but the most of us .. nothing is quite so therapeutic than a good long talk with a few old friends..." and the shot ended with all the gals talking over a table and enjoying each others company.

All one wants in life is to be with the right people at the right time... that is what is the life line for lifetime...

I just wish to have all my best buddies to live around my place ... in the same neighborhood... where we can meet up for a coffee in the middle of the week or on a Saturday morning for breakfast and just talk...talk about our lives..our achievements...problems... and most importantly about our feelings...

Feelings... it so much important for us to talk out what we feel... and to have someone to listen to us... Sometimes our life partner or our mother cannot be the person with whom we can share everything ... at that time we want someone who has gone through the same patch as are going through...someone who understands what it feels to be in such a situation... and instead of giving solutions to get out of the situation... just holds our hand and says...its okay...its alright to go through it... and slowly with care gets our mood back to normal and cheers us up... and at the end of the conversation we don't even remember what were we worried about ...

For me the perfect neighborhood would be Praj, Ketaki , Yamini, Leena, Prachi, Mugs,...
With these gals in my life i can be myself and and they can be their own self...
This idea of buying a flat in same society would be cool... i and Praj were planning it too.. i don't know how much is it practical...but to stay connected is so much important..

To tell honestly..even if we don't actually meet in person... our talks on phone after months also gets us together ... we start from where we had left...Yamini and me have experienced this sometimes...we don't talk for months...but one fine i get a call from her and we talk and talk ...as if we are sitting in our hostel rooms planning for a trip or solving sum issues in the star parivar ..!

With Praj...every time we talk ..its like we are talking while we taking a walk in the park near her place... and discussing about our life ..our plans..our dreams...

It just takes a few seconds to catch up... its just the exchange of few words and we know what situation the other person is in... or what is she going through ... its just perfect to be with them...my ideal vacation would also be with all these people.. hmm... ya if all of us get married soon then with we and our spouses.. ;) it would be fun to hang out with them... maja yeil...nahi tar a spinsters party and a Hangover kinda of trip would be just too good... i just keep my fingers crossed...

Well...With we, our families , our careers and our priorities ...we might not be able to stay in same locality...but still we are the perfect neighbors to each other.. any time of the day ...any day of the year...in any situation...any kinda help... we are there to listen and talk to each other... that's my idea of Perfect Neighborhood !!!

What is your idea gals... ?

:)

Cheers
Pradnya

Self Acceptance is the key

Yesterday we had our performance appraisal... like a school going kid i was nervous about the results of the performance review. The HR and the bosses tried are patience till the end of the day... finally at 8pm they declared results...the people who promoted were celebrating with joy, and many others who were not were having mixed feelings of hurt depression anger jealousy sadness... the otherwise en lighted atmosphere in the dealing room was suddenly dull and shady... there were only a few hand shakes and that too which didn't come with joy... everyone was cribbing about the HR and the bosses..how they didn't care about the employees progress success and benefits... and it went on and on....

Then i realized one thing.... are these having problem accepting what the management has offered them or is it that they have problem in accepting themselves with what they have achieved...

i do agree that injustice is done on the deserving people who have worked hard all year round... but then if you are getting what you want in life you have to accept it then move on.
I know had i been in place of Natasha or Prakhar who have not got promoted in spite of 3 yrs of excellent work, even i would be upset... but not to the limits of just going into a depression and feeling sorry about myself... i would never do that... no one else but me myself have the right to judge my potential...

i have set my own refernece points in life and i would like to judge myself with those.. what people feel and what my boss evaluates me is very much important for my professional career..

On a personal front it is me who decides what i had set as target and what i have achieved...

Last financial year was good for me... i moved in to a new profile .. new learning..new team.. new experiences and newer responsibilities... I had decided to give my best shot in the work life and i can say...ya i tried hard to make it good... obviously the best is yet to some....

I have learn t the way the business works... the way counter parties handle it..actually handling the counter parties themselves is a big job :) then taking decisions..handling queries...client call...discussions with sales teams... well the year was happening and i thoroughly enjoyed it... with a rating 2 at the end of the year..and appreciation from the boss as well...

I think my other colleges getting promotion and better rating didn't affect me as bad as it affected others is because... i have accepted myself and my achievements...
saying this i am not being complacent and not giving up on not trying harder... and neither i am under estimating my performance... its just that i know what i did and i am happy to get what i deserved...

I just hope everyone in the team just gets over the whole rating and performance review and just kick start the new year with a high spirit and enthusiasm... there is a long way to go ahead guys... cheer up... Picture abhi Baki hai mere dost !!! :)